Sul y Tadau



For nearly half my life now, I've had two Dads. My Dad, and my StepDad. I love both my dads. They are both special to me, in different ways. Both protective. Both there when needed.

My eldest lg, at 7, is now in the same boat. She loves them both. They are both special to her. But, it is also more difficult for her. 

I know she's struggled sometimes. The most important thing is that she knows that they both love her too. That they both care about her. 

Sometimes, what we need to do is make sure that she knows she's safe. That she  can talk to her Dad if she wants to when  she's at ours. That she has one life, not 2 separate ones. That, actually, we've all got her back. 

This year, my lg has spent today with her Dad (as she did last year too). So my youngest has spent the day with us, with her Dad, and my Dad (my StepDad is too far away under the lockdown restrictions for us to meet up today).  

I always send two cards on Fathers' Day, and this year, my 7yo asked to do the same. 

My Dad will always be my Dad. But I count myself lucky that I have 2 people that I can turn to when the chips are down. As my lg gets older, I hope that she, like me, appreciates and loves both of them. 

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